A place to ask questions when your bones start to murmur...

Where is it safe to talk about those things that it feels unsafe to talk about? How can you begin to understand the situations others don't understand? Who can you ask the questions you are afraid to say out loud?

Forbidden Queeries is a new question and response blog for those thoughts, feelings, and questions that you don't know where else to ask. Or just anything else you might want perspective or thoughts on from a person like me.

You can call me Mallie Sinn (she/they). A person dear to me once told me that in a different world, I would be that mad woman in the forest who people bring gifts to in order to ask for wisdom about their problems. I don't know if what I have to offer is wisdom, but I am one of those folks that people seem to unpack their darkest secrets or untold traumas to on a regular basis - and people tell me they appreciate the perspectives I offer in return for such trust. And I couldn't stop thinking about a poem that means a lot to me by Kai Cheng Thom from I Hope We Choose Love (2019):

"if your bones should start to murmur and hiss
in a language that is not safe to know, then leave
[...]
break the spells they said meant safety, but did not
unravel the knots they said meant love, but did not
and run to the woods where the path is winding
run to the place where the ravenous hide
[...]
if you should start to think forbidden thoughts
then come for me"
-Kai Cheng Thom, I Hope We Choose Love (2019)

I know what it is like to have to break these spells and unravel these knots for myself. I am a kinky, polyamorous, non-binary trans woman and bi lesbian that grew up in a white trash community, but was lucky enough to find opportunities where others would pay me to live, work, and study all over the world. I dream in multiple languages and live with multiple mental illnesses. I have been with hundreds of people on the worst days of their lives, supporting them in finding their way forward while I worked as a crisis counselor. And I am told I sometimes have a way with words that folks find helpful.

What you will find here is a question and response blog. I don't claim to have answers, but I will offer my own questions, thoughts, and experiences in case they might be helpful. My responses may be a bit...queer...often being at odds with what is normal and normative for most people. But I'm not people, I'm the mad woman in the woods, and you didn't come here to hear what people think.

You can submit questions and queries to me at forbiddenqueeries@gmail.com or in a private mention on mastodon at https://hachyderm.io/@mallory_sinn.

NOTE: My responses in this blog are my personal opinions and perspectives, and are NOT offered as counseling or therapy. Please reach out to a counselor or therapist is you're in need of that support!